These May Win You New Friends, But Very Risky to Do

As you find yourself surrounded being in new environment and surrounded with new people, you may find yourself end up having new friends. But only if you know how to approach them. Small talks may still work, but there are some more interesting ways (or subjects) that may find socializing more bearable.

To be frank, I’m not exactly the most social butterfly, but I have had experienced these situations before with mixed results (who hasn’t?). I find some of these methods of bonding are pretty interesting, but they may leave bitter taste in your (or somebody else’s) mouth, however.

Making fun of somebody else

Like I mentioned in my previous post, I reckon one of the easy ways to make some new friends is to make fun of someone else. I figure this is done to show that you are fun enough to joke around with. To do this, probably just pick a person with questionable fashion sense then throw shades with their clothing of choice. Seek someone clumsy and make an exaggerated impression of them.

Although, from what I’ve had experienced, while doing this will likely win you new friends, you may also end up disliked by a few, namely ones you make fun of. It’s probably not so bad if you and the people you make fun of don’t know each other, or the very least, they don’t notice what you make of them. You may also need to consider the kind of people you are currently hanging out with to make sure they’re okay with joking about people. But to most, it’s somewhat universally accepted that making fun of others, no matter the intention, or if you win new friends from it, is never okay. To see an example, refer to this exaggerated depiction on this video.

I think to certain degree, we actually can make fun of somebody else without actually making fun of them. In the form of game that is. It also relies on our people watching ability. For example, while you and your friends hanging around at a club, pick random someone then make a story of who they are, anything goes. It’s fun and doesn’t exactly hurt anybody. You may also do this to yourselves. It’s a good way to expand your creative minds and imaginations, especially if you are looking for some ideas.

Exchanging juicy gossip

From what I’ve seen, if there’s one thing that people may like more than making fun of someone else is to talk about them. But it has to be every little bit juicy, like their secrets, “interesting” quirks, or their relationship. Simply put, you gossip about them. This may also win you some new friends, but this can be a little bit dangerous as well, because when you do so, you’re actually playing with their reputations here. If there is one of your peers in your new circle can’t keep a secret, whatever gossip you talk about may find itself to that very person. And if it’s you who commit a confession, can you really be sure this conversation would not escape from your new social circle?

The thing about having new friends is that while you probably can hit it off right away, I’m not sure you can really trust them immediately. I mean… you just get to know them. If they really are good people, they probably won’t blab about your or someone else’s dirty laundry. But if they really are good people, perhaps they shouldn’t have had even talked or gossiped about someone else like that? You may also need to consider that at some point, you can be the one they’ll gossip about, when you’re not around.

Unless if what are you gossiping about is a secret room at school or office or some kind of unusual ritual. Now that’s an interesting subject that likely won’t harm anybody. Sounds fun, even.

Sharing mutual disdain

So it’s your first day on campus and one of your classmates invites you to have lunch with him and his friends whom you don’t know yet. And then, they start talking about a certain professor that you also happen to not like. If you have had been scolded by her before, they may show you some support… while simultaneously trash talking that professor. Sharing a mutual disdain of someone is also a very easy and interesting way to befriend new people. Beware if this escalates into conspiring, like… pranking the said professor, perhaps. Not only is there a risk of you getting caught, you may feel something exhilarating from the said prank, especially if you don’t get caught at all. It can be quite an unhealthy feeling and get out of hand real quick.

To be honest, while I have had experienced these circumstances beforehand, I’m not exactly the most social person around; far from it even. It is probably important to look, act, and talk in certain ways in order to impress people, but we do have a choice to mingle with a group of peers that are more our speed, yes? And it maybe not have to be those who require us to make others look bad, anyhow.

Have you guys ever had experienced similar situations before? Or perhaps know better ways to befriend people? :3